I'm not sure how your April went but mine was very busy. From working, catching a cold, getting a stomach virus and still being a mom 24/7 I had a lot going on. There was definitely a lot of showers of patience and interruptions. As a parent life feels a lot more intense when we are dealing with unexpected issues. You see the face of your little one(s) and you want everything to go perfect. Of course that's not always the case so for this month i'm dedicating it to rest. Even if it means you sleep in a little later on Saturday or you decide to say no when it comes to going with some friends. I'll definitely be coming back next month with some surprises.
When I first found out I was pregnant I knew immediately that I wasn't going to have a normal birth. I also knew I wasn't going to raise my child like most parents. I didn't want my child to eat meat, to get shots and I wanted her to get home schooled. I said no to meat because of health reasons as well as because of my diet. I also studied vaccines and because of her father's beliefs as well as my own we were very serious about not going down that route. I also felt very strongly about homeschooling her because of how freely I felt children should be from ages 1 through 7. Keep in mind that I also studied child development as well as other children and how they learn. I knew that since my daughter was raised differently that I needed to study her body as well as natural medicines to use for her. Of course, things have changed. With just one parent raising a child A LOT changes and sometimes you have to do what is most convenient. I did put her in daycare and I made sure to get everything done as far as paperwork so she could go without shots. I also understand other parents fear of an unvaccinated child being around their child so I take her for check ups often. She still doesn’t eat meat either but I feel when she’s able to comprehend life better I’ll let her choose for herself. So much is changing and I feel I need to make those changes as well. We have to remember that we live in this very conventional world and so it’s best to have balance in our unconventional lifestyles.
This week I’ll be sharing the benefits of colloidal silver.
This month we are focusing on ourselves. I've noticed through my own life experiences that there are many times that I have listened to others when it comes to taking care of my child. It can be something small like, "you need to put socks on her feet", even though I know she's going to take them off immediately. It can also be something big like, "you need to change her diet to meat". Of course the last example I don't give in to but it's still a lot of pressure when raising a child. So many people have so many different ideas about what YOU need to do and sometimes it's just out of genuine concern. Still, if you don't pay attention to how you want to parent your child you may notice you're raising your child based off of everyone else's rules. Recently, I observed someone being very aggressive towards their child even though their child was not doing anything wrong. I asked them why they talked so strongly and their response was, "my parents raised me that way". I know for many people it would make sense to raise your child based off of your own childhood but have you ever stopped and analyzed what worked and what didn't work? Also, keep in mind that you and your child may be completely different. It's okay to go back and recognize which parts of your childhood did not cater to your uniqueness. I had the opportunity to learn from my daughter one afternoon. I was trying to teach her the names "leaves" and "grass" and she seemed very frustrated. She wanted to name them what she felt instead even though she knew what I was telling her so I finally stopped correcting her. When I did she pointed to the sky and told me, "mommy that's the sky". She made me realize how she likes to learn and she doesn't like to be forced to know what something else. Penellope-Peace is very right brained and so I study that and do what I can to help her learn. Luckily, I am also very right brained so I can flow with her style of learning very well. My challenge for you this month is to figure out what you like. What are your ideas of parenting without outsiders telling you how to do it?
This month's essential oil is "Spiritual Oil Roll on ((( Raise Your Vibration)))". The review will be in experience.
This topic is one i've been discussing with many people lately. I grew up with my family members saying, "Spare the rod, spoil the child". As a child I never really questioned this. However, I did feel it was very unfair. I'll be honest I didn't get many whoopings as a child but the ones I did made me feel very angry. I remember being upset and humiliated and not even learning what I did wrong. Now as an adult with my own child I see the "rod" as something completely different like a metaphor. There are many different ways to discipline a child. Physically hurting a child, personally, I feel is the worst way to do so. Of course it's also the quickest way to do so when your child upsets you but does quick really help them ? How can hurting a child physically get them to comprehend what they did wrong and to know why they don't need to do it again? Sure, the fear of getting hit again will stop them but imagine the anxiety that starts to build up from doing something wrong. Let's not forget how children also model behavior so a lot of them take that same aggression out on their peers. That type of pain doesn't just stop in childhood it goes into adulthood. Many adults have anxiety when they mess up and even punish themselves when they make a mistake. Don't get me wrong i'm not judging you for how you discipline your child but I strongly believe in alternative ways in doing so. For example, giving them a time out and talking to them before and after they are put there. Also, I think it's very important to keep in mind the age of the child when disciplining them. Have you ever really sat down face to face with your child and talked to them about what they did wrong? Did you ever ask them why they did what they did and held an open space for them to answer honestly? I know it takes time and a lot of patience to do so but the results for their future will be a lot better. For this month the Flower Essence that I recommend is Red Clover. Red clover helps with anxiety and group thought. Check back in later this month and i'll be giving a review on this flower.
Happy New Year!
Peace of mommy is happy to be back this year and starting fresh. After some time off I talked to parents, some biological and some more spiritual. I felt very strongly that I needed to have a more stable and focused platform. So Peace of Mommy’s focus is mental health with parents as well as children. There is so much that I can not wait to share with you all as well as do. To start this month off I want to share two things with you all. One is an exercise that I have been doing daily for a few months now that has helped me. Being a parent can become very chaotic very easily. It’s important to keep in mind that you are still human and that you still need your time and space as well. When I wake up in the morning I touch my heart. Sometimes I say exactly what I want to do that day or how I want to feel. But this simple touch causes my whole body to feel aligned for the day. It’s an easy thing to do and it’s something everyone can do even if you’re in a rush remember to touch your heart. If you feel the need to try adding an affirmation to this practice as well such as, “today I will feel calm”. The last thing for this month that I want to share with you all is something i’ve been practicing with for about a year now and that is Flower essences. Flower essences are infusions of herbs made from flowers that aide in emotional and mental healing. All 2017 I worked on different ways of healing emotional and mental trauma and as far as items to use this was the best thing I found. Every month I will be adding a different Flower essence and telling you all about it so you can use it and showing you how you may use it as well. For this month the Flower essence is Baby Blue Eyes. Baby Blue Eyes is great for issues with masculine energies (“daddy issues”) as well as insecurity of self and others. At the top you can click on the link “Experience” for the video where I will go into depth explaining my experience. Soon I will be selling these products in my store but if you are interested in buying them or have any questions I will be happy to answer them :) Once again happy new year! May you walk into your power.